Hello, first time posting here so I hope it's ok! I met this girl through work a few weeks ago and we have continued to talk via text over a number of weeks and have become extremely good friends. Just two people with a lot in common!
We are both in long term relationships, in fact, she is married for 7 years. However, she has kept me a secret from her husband for some unknown reason. Her husband is very neutral and is not the jealous type at all. In fact, she has disclosed some very personal information to me (Essentially that they have a non existent sex life). Our texts at times, also become very flirtatious, telling each other how much we fancy each other, what would happen if we weren't with other people etc. etc.
We video a few times a week and just catch up with each other and talk about our shared interests. I'm now reaching the point where I am starting to develop feelings towards her. Which makes me a B***D I know. I would break off my current relationship in the event things between me and this friend progressed into anything 'further' and to be honest, my current relationship has been on a downward slope for months...
As far as I am aware, she is 100% committed to our FRIENDship and isn't looking for anything else. So I'm really looking for some advice here. I would like to tell her the way I feel but I'm worried that would kill the friendship dead, and I definitely don't want that. But as you can imagine I'm left speculating how she really feels due to the way we talk, how she keeps me a secret and the often flirtatious nature of our conversations.
Has anyone experienced something similar before? Thank you for any advice in advance, this has been boggling my mind for weeks!
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Female friend keeps me a secret from Husband
Leftoverloaf · 04/07/2020 21:15
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