Earlier this week we had a mutual mate round for coffee in garden. I was making drinks & overheard DP taking the piss saying how I was being a "dudley do right" because I had been cleaning all morning. (global pandemics have that effect)
I was hurt as he'd already called that twice the day before but brushed it off, then later the conversation turned to a niggle our mate had had with his girlfriend, it was a kind anecdote type thing & my DP launched into a rant under the guise of being funny, about how "it's not like women to be unreasonable?!" With a smirk in his face, to the point where our mate changed the subject.
This may seem a little petty but comes after several years of similar behaviour. Taking the piss out of my many interests, friends etc. All in a Very subtle way, so if I call him out on it he Always says I'm overreacting/too sensitive.
Joke is he has like 1 friend, NO interests & makes ZERO effort with his family - who are all great people.
I've often thought he was depressed as he rarely leaves his house other than for work or to come to mine. Don't know why I've stayed so long & he's always telling me I'm lucky he's not the jealous type, but gets weird if I talk to male friends, but again in a joking subtle way.
Also he gives expensive gifts for birthdays, but then tells me how well he did with the gift so I have to say Yes, you did really well!
These are just a few examples, I've been here (MN) before with same dilemma.
We live apart thank God & lockdown was a blessing but we've been back together for a week & I've seen things more clearly.
I know I have to LTB just getting it off my chest looking for support.
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Overheard DP taking the piss out of me to our mate, time to LTB?
Summer2003 · 04/07/2020 11:50
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