I'm 9 months into a relationship, all of what you have described (aside from the niggles) is very similar to my situation, we are late 40s/early 50s. We are on the same level for pretty much everything and haven't disagreed on many issues at all. He was single longer than I had been and when we both met (through friends). We both acknowledged we had been happy as single people and relationships didn't define who we are. I feel this is the healthiest relationship I've been in after a dysfunctional marriage and an abusive long term relationship after that.
We live 2 hours away from each other, so through lockdown we didn't see each other for 11 weeks. However, we have never had a day since meeting when we haven't been in contact. We chat/message every day, he's met the important people in my life and likewise I have met his. We have 3 holidays planned for next year and he talks a lot about the future and retirement. He is very open emotionally and is solid and dependable. I can imagine a great future with him and hope that it does happen. He says he is very sure and certain about 'us', I am too and the only BUT is the fact I have been in an abusive relationship in the past, so I'm hyper aware of red flags and often worry something will crop up. He always follows through with things he does/says/plans so do feel secure and trust him. He is fully aware that after my back history of relationships, I will not tolerate shitty behaviour and would walk at the first sign of a red flag.
In your situation, I would honestly give it until a year and if you still don't feel things are balanced or no future discussed, then it is time to reassess. I would think after a year you would both have an idea on whether next steps should be taken. I'm not talking marriage or living together in an imminent time frame, but at least of talking about a plan for the future.