I just want to start off by saying that my MIL is a lovely woman who has done everything to make me feel welcome and part of the family.
However, I now have a 4 month old and ever since we told her about the pregnancy I have found her to be somewhat overbearing.
That was when she started texting me every single day and if I don't reply she texts me over and over again until I do. I am not a texty person to start with and find it very annoying, especially because my family arent like this. We are more relaxed and just check in with a phonecall every few weeks so I am not used to the constant texting.
When found out I was pregnant she then decided to buy everything for the DS. I'm talking EVERYTHING (cot, pram, carseat, playmats, nursery furniture etc.) I was grateful but it took some of the fun out of expecting our first child. She also tried to take over my baby shower annoying all of my friends and wouldn't stop going on about naming DS after my partner so we caved and gave him it as a middle name.
The thing that bothers me the most though is this. She is constantly asking things like if he has slept in his cot in his own room yet or used the forward facing function on his pram yet. I inform her he is too young/not ready and he will yet she will continue to ask me. Just because she had her son in his own room at 8 weeks doesn't mean that mine should especially with what we know about SIDS etc
She is desperate to have DS overnight and said that I NEED to get him onto formula so she can have him overnight. I was so shocked by this I couldn't speak.
Sorry for the rambling but I feel as though she is trying to take over despite what is best for my baby and I. She wants to watch him 2 days a week when I go back to work and I am grateful for the help but I feel as though she won't listen to me and do things the way they were done 30 years ago for her son which isn't necessarily the safest way. The more she behaves like this the more I pull away from her which is a shame as I would like her to have a good relationship with her grandson as I think she is a nice person.
Am I overreacting? Should I tell her to back off? I don't want to upset her but I feel as if she wants to take my baby away before I am ready
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Noideawhy20 · 01/07/2020 13:23
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