OK I post on here a lot so sorry. I recently told my husband our 13 year relationship was over due to his verbal and emotional abuse. At the time he did his usual lash out and blame me, and I felt very comfortable with my decision. This week he is being much more reasonable, but keeps asking me if I'm sure, if I wanted him back all I would have to do is say the word. Etc. And then all my resolve crumbles. We haven't lived together for over a month, so the worst aspect of our relationship are starting to dim a little. However I'm now obviously being faced with the stark reality of life on my own. Loosing my house, financial security, parenting alone. And I'm freaking out.
He promised change repeatedly and hasn't, but now has begged me to forgive him and promises me he is a changed man after 4 counselling sessions.
Realistically if I think back, I can no longer bear for this man to touch me. I have developed what I now can identify is serial aversion. Perhaps from having set with him whilst still feeling hurt and angry with him after he had called me names.
Help me see reality. These men don't change do they? Am I making a massive mistake, or am I just having jitters.
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Help me remember why I'm leaving him - VA EA
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JustBeingMoi · 01/07/2020 11:07
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