So this is something my ex-dickhead said and I know we've established he's a twat etc.
But I'm in a phase of evaluating how I'm going to respond in future to times when I'm not happy with something someone says/does, when they cross a boundary or fall into deal breaker territory as a lover or friend etc.
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This is one situation- I must've been feeling a bit down/anxious about something and so I messaged around some of my facebook friends saying I wasn't feeling 100% or something and would like some support (I would've put it better than that though, and I must've been not my best as I really would hardly ever do that.)
I'd had 'Bob' as a FB friend for about 9 months or something, and met him through a group we'd both attended weekly for years.
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He replied:-
It is refreshing that you ask for your emotional needs to be met so directly, but do not be upset if some people do not respond.
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I was pretty surprised at that as I thought it was rather cheeky. Don't get me wrong I don't demand anyone respond. But responding implying he wasn't going to respond and was implicitly making a point of his decision not to is rather ...'Bob' of him.
So, I've been thinking about how I would handle it if someone did something similar nowadays (hopefully will never happen as his character is quite rare, I've never met such a twat or whatever the narc is.)
How do you think you would respond?
I was thinking about 'I don't have friends that don't support me' but maybe that's not quite right? And then block as it's not a good sign.
I mean, I don't expect anyone to be my therapist or anything, but maybe an 'aww, sorry to hear that' if you say you're out of sorts is reasonable to ask of a friend or whatever?
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Not to mention that the lack of support is one issue, the rubbing it in is another one.
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Don't get me wrong, I'm all for people being able to choose what they do, but likewise I can choose not to accept some behaviours and tell them so or unfriend.
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NoMoreDickheads · 30/06/2020 23:22
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