Prior to lockdown, our marriage was failing and we were on the road to separation. We have 2 toddlers.
DH was constantly stressed and snappy and I felt taken for granted and so I retaliated with anger and resentment.
During lockdown, DH became calmer and more engaged and slowly, we began spending more time together.
2 weeks ago, DH returned to work as a senior member of staff in a school. Since then, he's been working until 1am most days, organising timetables for September, transitioning new students, holding meetings, all whilst going in to teach key worker children FT.
I am working PT from home.
Up until today, I've supported him since returning to work. Taken care of the DCs at weekends so he can work, being understanding about not spending time together again.
Then today, I've had an awful day with one DC who is teething. He has had several tantrums throughout the day and I've cried a lot. DH got home and immediately wanted to let off steam about his day, following me around the kitchen as DC screamed for a snack whilst I was trying to prepare it.
I snapped and said about DCs tantrums and how him following me around was ridiculous when there wa so much going on at home. DH proceeded to tell me I needed to see the funny side of DCs tantrums.
I then said that I've been dealing with these tantrums now for 5 days. He threw his arms to his sides and said.
"Oh well."
I'm absolutely furious and I'm reminded that this is the sort of apathy I was dealing with DH prior to lockdown. Throughout lockdown, he's been much more caring. It has dawned on me that DHs workload or perhaps lack of time management on his part is the problem?
I'm not sure how we would solve this is it were the case.
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Husband's job could be causing our marriage problems
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Lonerer · 30/06/2020 19:31
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