DH is a SAHD to our 2 DC (4 &6), I work fulltime (usually in an office from from home since Covid). He;s an intelligent, capable man, handles most of the cooking/cleaning/shopping/childcare when I'm working, we split 50/50 when I'm not ... all good.
Problem is, when there's any problem more serious than a mild issue, he completely looses it. We live in the coutryside, some cows wandered into our garden while I was gone out in an area with no phone service, and by the time I was back in service, I had 19 missed calls, and he was completely hysterical when i talked to him, and hadn't done the one sensible thing to do, ie call the neighbouring farmer, and only seemed to calm down when I had come home and handled the situation. He freaks out completely if the kids hurt themsleves, and can't handle more blood than a scratch. He overreacts at the slightest thing - like there's a small leak in a pipe, he's convinced we'll have to tear up the whole downstairs floor to fix it, and is panicking, before we've even had a plumber out to fix it.
If the door rings unexpectdly, he will always make me answer it because he can't handle it.
And while afterwards, he acknowledges that there was no reason to get up in a flap, while it's ongoing if i try to tell him he's overreacting, he goes off on one at me.
I'm sick of having to be the only grown-up around when a crisis hits, and starting to lose respect for him.
Has anyone ever had a partner improve at this type of thing ? Am I enabling him by handling all the stuff he can't ?
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Panicking DH
OakElmAsh · 30/06/2020 16:41
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