My DP - a man - was in an abusive / coercive marriage for 23 years. He is now two years into a bitter divorce and really struggling. In communications which should focus on finances or child arrangements he is being gaslit about the abuse and mocked for “playing the DV card” and the divorce is being drawn out. Finances are now going through court but child arrangements are not (yet).
He is very confused, depressed (on medication) and seems unable to be proactive and progress the divorce.
I’m looking for advice about how to support him. Starting with coming to terms with what has happened.
He had counselling briefly after his Ex assaulted him - but stopped after a couple of months because the counsellor was inexperienced and he didn’t feel like he was getting anywhere.
Currently I’m repeating myself going over and over incidents - but he’s still not able to connect the abuse with what he needs to do to move on and crack on with his divorce.
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How do I support my DP who was in an abusive relationship?
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ZigaZigBahhh · 30/06/2020 15:08
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