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I've just text my ex and told him I fancy him still ..have I made a fool of myself?

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ohmygosh55 Tue 30-Jun-20 13:55:37

Me and my ex text each day.
Some days more than others
I still have feelings and still fancy him like crazy.
I couldn't go on chatting daily and not saying how I feel.
I want more and if it doesn't happen so be it.
I text him
"I still fancy the arse of you,maybe it's not appropriate to say but it's how I feel"
I hope he doesn't think I'm crazy

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ohmygosh55 Tue 30-Jun-20 13:58:45

No I'm staring at my phone
Stomach in knots
I feel sick

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Bunnymumy Tue 30-Jun-20 13:59:09

If you guys still text every day then I dobt think it'll come as a surprise to him.

The only issue is...would he be the type to now want to sleep with you, without committing, knowing you like him more?

Shoxfordian Tue 30-Jun-20 13:59:48

Why did you break up?

MMmomDD Tue 30-Jun-20 14:00:19

Well - presumably you didn’t break up due to loss of desire for each other...
Have the reasons you did gone away?
Or are you proposing FWB sort of arrangement?

EdgarAllenCrow123 Tue 30-Jun-20 14:01:01

Oh dear. He might fancy a shag but I wouldn't go down that road tbh since you want more than that.

Cherrygirl3 Tue 30-Jun-20 14:02:24

Im a believer is saying what you feel. Doesn't necessarily benefit but at least it's out there now. Things should never be left unsaid. Has he replied yet OP?

ohmygosh55 Tue 30-Jun-20 14:02:32

We broke up because he would go on crazy benders and we would argue.
I've never stopped finding him attractive

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Bagelsandbrie Tue 30-Jun-20 14:03:01

Do you have children together, is that why you still text a lot? Otherwise what have you got to lose!

ohmygosh55 Tue 30-Jun-20 14:03:41

He hasn't replied yet.
He is at work tho till 6 pm so might not see it for a while.
If I didn't say it I probably would regret it.
Even if he doesn't feel anything at least he knows how I feel so he can decide.

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bigchris Tue 30-Jun-20 14:04:05

Does he still go on them ?

Shoxfordian Tue 30-Jun-20 14:04:10

Do you think he'd be a good partner for you next time ?

ohmygosh55 Tue 30-Jun-20 14:04:17

@Bagelsandbrie no we don't have kids together.
We just chat about all sorts really.

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1235kbm Tue 30-Jun-20 14:05:04

'Benders'? What does that involve?

Crystalspider Tue 30-Jun-20 14:06:25

I would think carefully, if you want to get back with him, the old issues are still going to exist. If you want just sex then it's degrading the relationship further to just fwb which will just make you feel like crap after wards. If you're just wanting some physical, find another man you find attractive.

Cherrygirl3 Tue 30-Jun-20 14:06:27

Keep us posted......did you message on Whatsapp? Do you expect the curse of the blue tick to strike? smile

ohmygosh55 Tue 30-Jun-20 14:07:04

He drinks a lot on the weekends
Gets into bad situations
I was sick of it
But I miss him and texting daily and that being that is not enough .

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Fanthorpe Tue 30-Jun-20 14:07:14

Delete his number. Dedicate the time you save to finding someone who you fancy who doesn’t go on benders.

bigchris Tue 30-Jun-20 14:07:46

@051235kbm getting pissed for hours and going AWOL, ie no texts etc when out

ohmygosh55 Tue 30-Jun-20 14:07:50

I messaged on WhatsApp
God I hate them bloody blue ticks
I keep checking
I feel like I'm waiting for the dentist.

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1235kbm Tue 30-Jun-20 14:08:07

How much does he drink at weekends? What bad situations would those be? Does he take drugs as well?

Bunnymumy Tue 30-Jun-20 14:08:26

Eee op...this way madness lies.

If you just wanted sex without commitment it might have been ok (might. If he could be trusted not to want something else from it like to get you to fall for him for the ego boost).

But it sounds like there are still feelings there. I dont think this is a good route to go down. He isn't compatable for you are you know this already...

Bunnymumy Tue 30-Jun-20 14:08:38

*and you

EdgarAllenCrow123 Tue 30-Jun-20 14:08:49

Yeah, you didn't tell him you still had feelings though did you? I would read your message as 'shall we fuck again?'.

And that's very different to what you mean and want.

bigchris Tue 30-Jun-20 14:08:53

A bender is defined as a 'wild drinking spree ' grin

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