I'm newly separated (March). To be honest our relationship had been breaking down for around 3 years. He suffers from a few mental health problems so I tried very hard and put up with a lot of emotional abuse because I loved him and trusted he felt the same so I believed he would get better. Our sex life was non existent and had been for 2 or more years.
I'm so confused. I'm emotionally starved, really missing intimacy and feel I have a lot to share however I'm so affected by his abuse that I worry that I won't trust anyone or believe I am worthy of love and definitely don't feel attractive and the thought of having sex with another man and being so vulnerable fills me with dread! I've thought about counselling but I've really never found it that helpful. I know my thoughts are ridiculous but I can't just shut my brain up. Anyone been in a similar situation and come out the other side? Or have any advice? I feel if I didn't have kids and no childcare and we weren't in lockdown, I probably would have just gone out got drunk with friends and possibly found a quick meaningless rebound guy or at least been able to let loose. I'm not sure if I'm making sense? Help!
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Newly separated help please!
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tigerjoe16 · 30/06/2020 11:36
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