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Is my marriage over?

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brokensoul9 Mon 29-Jun-20 23:24:39

My husband and I have been married almost two years now, together for over 6 years. Marriage has been very rocky quite early in. Interference from MIL I feel has been the root off a lot of issues but not all. I feel like I'm made to feel like an outsider and not good enough for her son by her. She always finds something to criticise. I feel my husband doesn't stick up for me when I tell him about these issues, he says he knows what I'm like and that I take things personally. When if it's the other way I'm again to blame as his mum just can't seem to do anything wrong in his eyes. It's gotten to the point where I'm just sad in the marriage, I love him but I can't carry on like this. He never sticks up for me, he just flouts abuse at me instead. I just don't know what to do.

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Lblr Mon 29-Jun-20 23:52:02

I feel that I am in the same position as you... he belittled me tells me to shh little girl. Says I am solely reliant on him- at the moment he’s been furloughed however been on maternity leave since April 2019. I get told that I Would be a prostitute to kett ET p a roof over me. I am a teacher, although supply. I am desperately trying to get a post. Every interview I don’t get the job get told well same story every time. You are not a professional. He laughs how much teachers are paid. He calls me a s lag and to f off in front on our children. He complains every dinner time, has thrown food in face whilst eating at the table because he did not like his meal. He tries to teach me lessons.example He said he didn’t want DS2. That I promised to do everything for DS2. I did and I do everything but I asked him to put the buggy in the car he said no cuz it was DS2’s buggy. Went to the beach cuz the pram wasn’t in the car he walked off with DS1 I had the bags and DS2 he made us walk the other side of the beach to teach me not to forget... he has a dog. I nag every day to pick the poop up. Owner of a dog for 15 years I know they like to be Clean I want to be clean I want me kids to be clean yet he says well you do it but I ain’t if you want it done. He has done the bins 5 times 8 years we have been together. He plays the victim card then when it suits. He won’t do things as a family just stays in the bed room. I mentioned that he said he would call the police on me for breaking the rules that it was more than 5 miles and wouldn’t look good having a criminal record when applying for jobs. I don’t even know what health relationship is any more. How much do we take? I am sad but I love him. I explain it isn’t about love this is about respect. He just says old dog won’t change. He said he isn’t prepared to change his ways. Is this what we are bound for? Anyone with An idea?

brokensoul9 Tue 30-Jun-20 00:01:10

Lblr

I feel that I am in the same position as you... he belittled me tells me to shh little girl. Says I am solely reliant on him- at the moment he’s been furloughed however been on maternity leave since April 2019. I get told that I Would be a prostitute to kett ET p a roof over me. I am a teacher, although supply. I am desperately trying to get a post. Every interview I don’t get the job get told well same story every time. You are not a professional. He laughs how much teachers are paid. He calls me a s lag and to f off in front on our children. He complains every dinner time, has thrown food in face whilst eating at the table because he did not like his meal. He tries to teach me lessons.example He said he didn’t want DS2. That I promised to do everything for DS2. I did and I do everything but I asked him to put the buggy in the car he said no cuz it was DS2’s buggy. Went to the beach cuz the pram wasn’t in the car he walked off with DS1 I had the bags and DS2 he made us walk the other side of the beach to teach me not to forget... he has a dog. I nag every day to pick the poop up. Owner of a dog for 15 years I know they like to be Clean I want to be clean I want me kids to be clean yet he says well you do it but I ain’t if you want it done. He has done the bins 5 times 8 years we have been together. He plays the victim card then when it suits. He won’t do things as a family just stays in the bed room. I mentioned that he said he would call the police on me for breaking the rules that it was more than 5 miles and wouldn’t look good having a criminal record when applying for jobs. I don’t even know what health relationship is any more. How much do we take? I am sad but I love him. I explain it isn’t about love this is about respect. He just says old dog won’t change. He said he isn’t prepared to change his ways. Is this what we are bound for? Anyone with An idea?


He doesn't seem like a nice person at all!! How can he throw good in your face! That is just not on! How can he be so horrible about DS2. I do think you need to leave. I know it is a lot easier said than done.

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HollowTalk Tue 30-Jun-20 00:02:28

He never sticks up for me, he just flouts abuse at me instead.

One of those things would be an excellent reason to leave this bastard, but both of them mean you'd have to be insane to stay with him.

Come on, think what life without him would be like.

brokensoul9 Tue 30-Jun-20 00:14:36

HollowTalk

*He never sticks up for me, he just flouts abuse at me instead.*

One of those things would be an excellent reason to leave this bastard, but both of them mean you'd have to be insane to stay with him.

Come on, think what life without him would be like.


I do feel like I would be happier, less stress of arguments. I just don't want a broken home for my son or for him to get custody of him, my worst nightmare

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Iloveme30 Tue 30-Jun-20 00:44:09

These men sound outrageous 😡😡😡😡
A child would prefer to come from a broken home than live in one believe me.
Please get stronger I know it's hard I really do ( been there )
You and both your kids will be far far happier in the long run xxxxxx
Run for it feel freedom and happiness again ❤️

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