This is probably going to come out garbled so bare with me.
A year ago I had counselling and she told me my partner was controlling and emotionally abusive. I hate this phrase as it sounds so drastic and it isn't like I'm being beaten or subjected to extreme mental traumas. He always told me I was the controlling and abusive one for not liking certain things he did. He calls me names and always has the upper hand so I can never answer back without "proving" him correct. I do recognise this isn't normal loving behaviours. Anyway I now refuse to communicate. I used to get upset and cry and he just doesn't care. He has no empathy whatsoever.
He now thinks I'm abusive pathetic and immature because I basically ignore him. I give limited answers and refuse to discuss anything other than subjects he wants to talk about e.g. work, cars etc. I have absolutely no desire to discuss our relationship or anything I want to do etc. I just don't see the point. It's gets us nowhere and he gets the upper hand and I just come out looking more crazy. When I see these threads about husbands giving the silent treatment and everyone says LTB he is abusive I think well that's now me. Have I turned into the abusive one?
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Am I now the abusive one?
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SoAngryAgain · 29/06/2020 20:11
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