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What to do? Help please

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anticonspiracy · 28/06/2020 19:16

Guy I have been seeing for a month is seeing someone else. Well he told he was dating this woman before lockdown and they had sex once. Been with this guy and had sex and sleep overs. Noticed messages from someone coming to his phone. I then saw that he had been sending videos of himself wanking to this woman and so has she. He quickly puts his phone face down when we are together and he gets a message from her. We've both said we like each other. Too early to have the exclusive talk? Or should I wait till second month? Thx

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IWillNotNameTheTree · 28/06/2020 19:17

Why would you want to be exclusive with this man?

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anticonspiracy · 28/06/2020 19:32

@IWillNotNameTheTree we get along fine. He's cool. Should I tell him about the other girl?

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rachyrooo · 28/06/2020 20:57

What to do... get the hell out of that situation you clearly do t matter to him and he wants his cake and eat it

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category12 · 28/06/2020 21:00

Well, if you don't mind sharing and are having safe sex, I guess it's up to you. But if you expect monogamy at some point, you're barking up the wrong tree.

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Summertime87 · 28/06/2020 21:02

I suppose it's only been a month, he can do what he likes if you haven't had a chat about exclusivity. If you like him, keep seeing him. But I'd keep my options open for other men too..He clearly knows that you only want him so he's getting the best of both worlds

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FudgeBrownie2019 · 28/06/2020 21:03

You're wanting to pursue something with a man who sends videos of himself wanting to other women?

No, no, no. Let it go and set your bar a little higher please.

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Justcallmebebes · 28/06/2020 22:01

"we get along fine. He's cool. Should I tell him about the other girl?"

I think he probably knows! Gather up your self respect and move on

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Curious78 · 28/06/2020 22:13

Hi OP, after one month I'd expect some sort of exclusivity...I certainly wouldn't appreciate him sending and receiving video clips of that nature. He doesn't sound very much like the committed type x

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NoMoreDickheads · 28/06/2020 22:16

Ugh. Shagging you while sending wanking videos, maybe doing more, with someone else. Bin.