DH has been quite ill, no diagnosis yet but lung related.
He was a smoker when young but "gave up" before we married. However, it has become apparently that he's lied about this through most of our 30 year marriage and he's continued to smoke at work and socially.
I really struggle with both the lying and the fact that a man with children would risk his health like this.
So, now I'm facing the prospect of nursing him through something awful (in sickness and in health) whilst "hating" him for bringing it on himself and on us.
I don't hate him and I realise this all sounds very selfish, it's only a small part of many conflicting emotions atm but I'm am really worried about how I will find it in myself not to be vile to him about this.
Also about how our children will cope and how finding out he's been dishonest about smoking will affect them.
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How do you deal with a serious illness when the person involved is at least partly responsible?
UltimateWednesday · 28/06/2020 11:05
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