I have been married for the last 16 years and have2 kids - 8 and 3 years old. I had a good relationship with my husband up until we had kids. Due to stress and work associated with childcare our relationship started to go downhill. After fighting a lot for the last few years we havenow settled and home is peaceful and harmonious for the last many months. However, I don't feel that I love my husband anymore. Given the harmonious and peaceful relationship though I am still living with my husband as that is best for kids
Now, last September I met someone at work and fell for him. I think I am crazy about him, I dontknow if it is love, lust or just infatuation, but I can't stop thinking about him. He also considers me a very good and close friend. We travelled together for work but the closest we got physically was a tight hug which felt morethan a friendly one. He tells me he misses me during lockdown. However, when I message him his rate and speed of reply is bad and I am left looking at my phone all the time eagerly waiting to hear from him. And I just can't stop thinking about him.
Our relationship can'tgo anywhere as both of us are married with kids and devoted to our kids if not partners. I think I also dont want it to go anywhere. But to save myself this pain of endless and desperate waiting and overall craziness, I am thinking of ending all contact with him. I am thinking of meeting him one last time, tell him how I feel so as to get some closure, but then tell him that I need to stop talking, messaging, contacting him, or should I just disappear from his life without telling him anything and leave him wondering? I have left that job so there is no chance of seeing him at work anymore.
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user1498908155 · 28/06/2020 09:51
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