I am married and been with my husband for 10 years since we were in our late teens. In the last 3 years sex has got less and less frequent, and soon became once every 3 months we would try. and by that, I mean it would last a few minutes before he would go soft.
It has caused a huge problem in our marriage - I feel frustrated, sad, unattractive, unloved etc etc.
A few weeks ago he finally went to see the GP but he didn't want to talk to me fully about what happened. He has had a blood test to check hormones but other than that there may be nothing more they can do. A few days ago he admitted he has no sex drive at all and he doesn't know if he ever will again. He said he doesn't even masturbate anymore and hasn't ejaculated in a long time.
He thinks I should support him as I promised to take him in sickness and in health. He knows I wanted to have a child at some point - he says he wants this too but he wouldn't consider using a donor if he can't do it. He says if he can't cope with losing both the prospect of having children and me at the same time if all of this doesn't get better.
As for me, I feel trapped and lonely - I cannot talk about this with anyone. It feels humiliating, I feel as if I am living the life of a nun in a prison I didn't choose. Has anyone been in this situation and did it get better?
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No sex ever again?
spirallingCat · 28/06/2020 09:51
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