Well. The bare bones of my situation was that I split up with my husband a couple of years ago. We continued to live in the same house for about a year. During this time I started another relationship. I didn't cheat and my ex knew all about the situation. Anyway we (me and bf) were taking it slow and we were going to wait until my ex moved out to start up anything properly. We talked a lot though , and spent a lot of time together and I felt connected to him. We were clear that we both wanted a relationship.
The day/week my ex moved out my bf started turning his phone off, disappearing and being quite off with me. He started acting strangely, he called me a few names and said some pretty mean things to me. We were arguing constantly so I ended the relationship. It was hard at the time but it was just everything I suppose. I struggle with my mental health at times and I got quite depressed, although recently I have been feeling better.
Anyway, he's back in contact and it turns out he met someone else on the very same day as my husband moved out and that's why his behaviour changed. He is very apologetic and says he doesn't know why he did what he did. The person he met was married and they had an affair up until a few months ago. So it lasted about six months.
I feel like it's a bad joke , actually meeting her on the day my husband moved out, but I don't know if I'm expecting too much, I mean I was in a complicated situation. I wasn't exactly a catch. If I could go back I would hold off the relationship completely. I regret that I didn't.
I had suspected something like this at the time, that he had met someone else, but he was adamant I was imagining things. I asked him a few time but he denied it.
So I'm 80 per cent in the "he's a bastard" field. But I know I am just looking at it from my viewpoint. So I'm looking for objective views .
The worst thing for me is the name calling and nastiness. And not telling me what was happening. I felt very confused for the last couple of months of our relationship. It lasted about 6-7 weeks after my ex moved out.
Thank you for reading my post .
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JustAnotherDay555 · 27/06/2020 18:38
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