I’m really at the end of my tether with my partners sexual performance anxiety and subsequent ED.
We have been together for 3.5 years and for most of that time my partner has suffered with generalised anxiety and performance anxiety which has resulted in him not being able to keep an erection.
For the first few years we sort of just carried on trying and every so often things would be fine but we couldn’t stray from a very set ‘routine’ and position etc otherwise things would go south.
It’s now got so bad that we haven’t had sex for around ten months and although we are still affectionate with each other, I am starting to feel The Ick.
It all came to a head a few months ago, he admitted it was a problem and is now in counselling, but after all of this time I am really struggling to find him sexually desirable and find the thought of the ‘homework’ we need to do together cringeworthy and uncomfortable.
I was always a very sexual person but I think my sexual desire for him has just slowly died as time has gone on.
I have tried to be understanding and supportive but if I’m honest I’m struggling to keep this up (no pun indented) it doesn’t help that in an argument he will often imply it’s my fault he has this problem, he says I make him feel anxious.
He often shuts me down when I try to talk about it too, I don’t know whether to just walk away at this point because I am so frustrated with it all. I do love him but this is really taking its toll on our relationship.
Does anyone have any experience of this and did you manage to overcome it as a couple? Any words of advice would be welcome.
Thanks
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Frustrated with partners performance anxiety
Skibideebapbapbap · 27/06/2020 13:50
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