I have teenage DCs, he has older ones. Got together exactly 2 years ago. Had some ups and downs (mental illness) but still together. My DCs didn’t like me having a partner, the older one has come round, younger one won’t have anything to do with him. So I’ve kept our homes “separate” and I live at his place when DCs are with their father every other week. His kids are older and mostly left home/living with mother, so not an issue for him.
We tried “blending” the families a bit at one stage - meals out together, but it was tricky as mine didn’t really like him, although they liked his kids. He has 5 from 2 marriages, so it has always been a combination of some - older ones are away.
He suggested buying a place together but as my kids are so anti, I’ve decided to wait until my youngest (14) leaves home. I’m also aware that he can be chaotic with his income. He’s a professional, but works on short term contracts. He does own 3 properties (each mortgaged but 1 BTL). I own my house outright. His plan is for us to be away some of the time of the year, not sure when from - next year? This plan needs some refinement. One of my kids would be at university, the other at boarding school, so this could work - and/or he can be away alone for sporadic chunks of time.
What am I asking? I guess I just want to hear from people in the same position. The honeymoon period has worn off and I feel a bit insecure. We don’t have baby plans or anything like that, so how should this relationship “be”?
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Anyone else in 2 year, post-divorce relationship?
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Mosquitobite · 26/06/2020 09:37
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