Been on around 5 dates, DTD on the last one and had a chat about taking it slow and seeing how things went. He was in constant touch after for around 4 days culminating in him asking if I wanted to do something that week. More sporadic comms during the week itself as he injured himself so I left it and then eventually asked if he wanted to do a drink on the weekend (he had been suggesting grabbing one that week).
Gets to the day of the drink and he confirms in the morning but was a little too late for me - had already made plans so suggested we do something this week instead. He follows up adn asks to do x day instead of y day, messaging picks up again with questions etc.
Today is the day of the drink and get a message saying his injury is really playing up to day (makes sense as there is context and he has had appointments) so he doesnt want to drink bevause it would affect meds/can we do the weekend. I express sympathy and say weekend works ok. He then messages more with chit chat (no questions tho) and I don't reply - he doesn't give a time or place for the weekend date.
I will obvs just leave it her but it has now been 2 weeks since we last saw each other vs. 2/3 weeks of seeing each other twice a week. I do want to take his explanation at face value but has lost momentum and unsure whether to believe his reasons. Why bother still messsaging and suggesting plans?! Starts to screw with your mind
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pandaandap · 25/06/2020 15:47
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