Hi all,
I am 34, single and really want a partner, family and biological children. I have had good relationships and many, many, many dates so I am meeting men but have not quite found the enduring right guy.
I am really not looking forward to starting online dating again. I have tried at length plus am socially active etc.
There is someone i met OLD 2 years ago and have been on and off in contact since. We had a lot of sexual chemistry, he's kind, very intelligent, caring and successful. He is very interested in me.
However, we don't have a huge amount in common and not to sound too shallow, but some of his presentation is really off-putting (he is a really terrible dresser- really worn out, holey clothes, a lot of knackered free promotional tshirts etc - despite having plenty of money). He will occasionally buy new things if I push him to but it is an uphill struggle with a lot of pushback. I'm not looking for immaculate or super- stylish, just presentable would be nice. I do see the endearing side but it is too much, frankly.
Anyway. I am considering giving things with him a go properly. It sounds awful to think of it as 'settling' as I am not better than him and he has a lot going for him. But whilst we have that chemistry, it just doesn't feel like we are quite on a wavelength even though we care for each other a lot. Some of that could be put down to different cultures and different areas of expertise/ work/ education.
Also, he has ED. This is new, he didn't have it when we met. I'm not looking for a convenient sperm donor but I am looking for a relationship with the potential to become long term as I do want to have children in the next few years (as does he). He hasn't seen a GP yet.
I am aware I sound quite cold and negative about a lovely guy here, I'm just not sure whether this is right to pursue. He really likes me and is a good man. I like a lot of things about him.
The thing is, in nearly 3 years of dating and short relationships haven't met anyone i have felt a genuine romantic, full- package connection with, other than one who didn't continue things so I am not feeling hopeful about meeting someone who I feel strongly about anytime soon.
Argh. What would you suggest? I would in principle be open to a sperm donor and then worry about relationships in slower time but for a couple of reasons that would not be ideal for me.
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met a man I like but not sure how much, a few problems including ED
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sweetbirdofjuice · 25/06/2020 13:07
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