I have a very complicated relationship with the man whom I consider to be the love of my life. I fell in love with him the day I met him (several years ago). It was intense and I've hardly had a day go by since then when I don't think about him.
We've recently started talking again and are trying to be friends (although we haven't met up in person because COVID), and on social media now I see that he has a girlfriend. But not just any girlfriend. She's TEN years younger than I am, was a model in her teenage years (think long slim legs & underwear model figure) and is now a successful published author. He's always gushing on facebook about how talented she is and how incredibly proud of her he is.
I can't imagine anyone ever feeling that way about me. And certainly never him. I'm not delusional, I know we're never getting back together - but it hurts to know how unfavourably I compare to her when for me, he's it. I'm pretty plain and ordinary by comparison and I don't know how to get past this negative way of thinking about myself. I do want to be friends with him long term and I don't want to sabotage what they have (frankly he'd be an idiot not to marry her) but how on earth can I get over him and stop seeing myself this way? It's eating me up. I mean I've never had particularly high levels of self esteem, but this is ridiculous.
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How to get over someone/stop comparing yourself?
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alwayslemons · 24/06/2020 19:11
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