Hi All,
I had a very large group of friends who I would see on a regular basis, we had a big group chat, we slept over at each others We would see each other at least once a month, usually more. We have been through so much together. They all came to my hen do and wedding last year.
One of the group has fallen out with me. It was a long time coming and I had tried to withdraw from her slightly (we were very close friends) over the last year or so so we could remain friends but shes an all or nothing type! When I got pregnant instantly after my wedding when she had been trying for years was apparently the last straw as I should have warned her I was trying (absolutely noone knew) and she hasnt replied to me since apart from to send me a message when I was 36weeks listing what a horrible person I am and why. I should add I told her privately and sensitively and didnt even announce it on fb etc so.she wouldnt have to see it.
Anyway, her aside. The whole group now appears to not be interested in being my friend aside from 1 who I was very close to but this year felt she couldn't invite me to some life events as the other friend would be there.
I just feel devastated, I love these girls and they just dont seem to care. When I strike up conversations its stilted and awkward, some just completely ignore if I comment on their posts etc on fb. I have had a very tough time with my baby needing multiple surgeries but only 1 has reached out although they all know.
I have thought about sending them all a message just saying I miss them or inviting them somewhere post lockdown but I'm a bit scared of the rejection. I dont know what they have been told about the fall out but know its typical of the girl to twist stories to her angle. I dont want them to feel it's an either or situation.
I have about 4 friends separate to this group but I just feel so lonely without them. I dont really know what I'm asking. What should I do?
I'd like to add there is ZERO chance of repairing my friendship with this other girl so please dont suggest that.
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Seem to have lost a large group of friends after a fall out with 1?
PopandFizz · 24/06/2020 00:55
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