I have been with my partner for eight years and we have a three year old together. My sex drive hasn't been the same since I had a baby but in every other way we had a good relationship. The sex wasn't gone completely but I knew it was an issue for us.
My partner had a female friend who also has a child and he occasionally went over to her house with our son for play-dates. After the last time they saw each other they had a text conversation which was a bit flirty. He said at that point he just enjoyed a bit of attention but didn't think it would go any further. Then a week or so later, she text him coming onto him late at night and they sent each other pictures. The next day, he messaged her telling her that they couldn't be friends anymore and he confessed to me a month later out of pure guilt. I never would have suspected a thing and I do believe his version of events, because he confessed to me and I also know they haven't seen each other in person since the texting started.
He is claiming that he felt really insecure about our sex life and that he was able to do this because it made him feel good that someone wanted him sexually. He wants me back but I have kicked him out for now and we are co-parenting for our son. I just can't believe it and I can’t help but worry that he had feelings for his friend, even though he says it was never about her. I have a huge decision to make and I don't want a broken family for my son but I also don't know if I can cope with this. We could have had a discussion about our sex life without having to go through this! He says he will wait for as long as it takes and is trying to work on himself through counselling but I don’t know what to do.
I'd really appreciate any advice from people who have gone through anything similar. Thanks.
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Partner sexted his friend
Watermelon24 · 22/06/2020 13:39
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