It's my birthday next week. My four friends and I usually stick £20 each in for each birthday gift.
We never discuss with the recipient before-hand. The last birthday, a few months back, we just transferred her the cash as she is so hard to buy for and can afford whatever she wants.
I think since we're now in lockdown, my friends will do the same for me. If so, do you think it would be okay to ask them if I can donate the money to our local food bank. Or is that a bit ungrateful, pushing my views, using their money, kind of thing?
If they asked me before-hand, I could explain that as we live in a pretty deprived area and I'm really lucky to still be working, and actually saving money pretty well just now, (I'm saving to buy a house), it doesn't really feel right taking gifts/money when I don't need them, yet others must be struggling so much. But we don't usually discuss.
I don't want to offend my friends at all. Would you be offended if a friend asked you this? Or do I donate the money and tell a white lie that I bought perfume with it or something? Is that worse?!
Thanks.
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I don't know if this would be okay or not
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burfdaysuit · 21/06/2020 23:07
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