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Scared by someone entering our house today - big argument with DP

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Lickmylegs0 · 20/06/2020 17:14

I need to know I’m not going crazy. I was in garden, and came in to see a strange lady using our toilet. Baby was asleep in room next to door, and my DD was there too. DP had opened door and let lady in to use the toilet, he claims she pushed past him - but I think he should have said ‘no’ firmly.
Man on doorstep wanted to contact previous owners of our bungalow - DP was about to get all our paperwork out. I stopped him and told them to contact estate agent.
Strange lady came back later. I spoke to her through window - she wanted to know if the previous owner had died - and then said the bungalow should belong to them.
I feel very shaken up and DP has been having a go at me saying I overreacted.

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CodenameVillanelle · 20/06/2020 17:15

Yeah he WBU - what a silly thing to do!

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NotaCoolMum · 20/06/2020 17:17

What the hell?! I’d have gone mental at them!! DH surely shouldn’t be letting strangers into your home for many reasons (one of which includes LOCKDOWN!) YANBU X

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EmperorCovidula · 20/06/2020 17:18

They sound unhinged. I would check that nothing is missing.

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Nickname21 · 20/06/2020 17:19

All sounds a bit weird. Why would they think the bungalow belonged to them?

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Brumcherub · 20/06/2020 17:20

Yes you are right to be angry/upset by this behaviour.

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KitchenConfidential · 20/06/2020 17:20

What the actual fuck?!

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WaitingForTheTurn79 · 20/06/2020 17:21

If the incident had happened the way your husband said it did , then he may have had to physically stop the woman from entering the property and this is something that a lot of men are taught to avoid. I would give your husband a break . This woman who entered the property without permission and then told you it should belong to her(?) Is the real problem.

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PegasusReturns · 20/06/2020 17:22

Yes I’d be really cross and much more so that he’d failed to stop someone pushing past rather than he’d invited someone in Shock

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safariboot · 20/06/2020 17:22

All sounds very weird. I'd consider police, and increasing your security. Someone who believes they should own your house probably also believes they can take whatever's in it. Alternatively, a woman asking to use the toilet and someone else asking your husband for stuff, that reeks of distraction burglary.

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needhandhold · 20/06/2020 17:23

How very weird!

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Lickmylegs0 · 20/06/2020 17:23

They looked unhinged. She was putting hand sanitiser on when I saw her - but I made DP bleach the toilet. She said the bungalow shouldn’t have been sold - something about the nephew sold it and her partner should have it. She wanted to know if previous owner had died and how much the bungalow sold for.

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DandyMandy · 20/06/2020 17:23

That sounds really creepy and scary. I hope you're going to be okay. How the hell could your house belong to them? Very weird.

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WaitingForTheTurn79 · 20/06/2020 17:23

Sounds like she is related (daughter?) To the previous owner. She came to visit her relatives(parents?) And on finding that they don't live there any longer immediately assumed that they had died and therefore she should have inherited the property . Obviously , a lot going on there .

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Lickmylegs0 · 20/06/2020 17:24

Distraction burglary was what I thought. Nothing missing.

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EKGEMS · 20/06/2020 17:24

If she's pushing past him into the house then the husband has a legal right to defend himself and his children and wife,correct? Idk British law but here in the states you can.You have no idea what her intentions were. I'd have lost my shit with your spineless husband and both of the strangers

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needhandhold · 20/06/2020 17:24

Tell her to piss off. It’s nothing to do with you. If she’s that concerned then she should contact a solicitor. Tell her if she ever tries to get into your house again that you’ll call the police. I suggest you set up a security camera on your front door

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WaitingForTheTurn79 · 20/06/2020 17:26

It sounds scary and I'm not surprised you are shaken up , sorry I missed that it your OP xx

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Lickmylegs0 · 20/06/2020 17:26

It was how quickly it all happened - and the safety of my children which disturbs me. And DP can’t see why I’m upset. I’ve just had a massive go at him - over this and something else he did this afternoon.

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MrsTerryPratchett · 20/06/2020 17:28

If someone does that, call the police! Don't start showing them paperwork. Your DH is weird.

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Lickmylegs0 · 20/06/2020 17:28

Do you think I should report to police?

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Spudlet · 20/06/2020 17:29

I’m not normally one for calling 101 but in this case I would - just in case they are distraction burglars doing the rounds. Although that’s a very random distraction technique!

I would also consider putting a warning on the local Facebook page if you have one.

Definitely tell your DH not to let them in again and if they come back and get pushy again, tell them to leave or you’ll call the police. And do it if they don’t go.

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NotaCoolMum · 20/06/2020 17:30

Definitely report to the police! Flowers

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Ellmau · 20/06/2020 17:31

Your solicitor will have checked the title to ensure the vendor genuinely owned the property.

If they turn up again, call the police.

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Boredbumhead · 20/06/2020 17:32

It's not your husband's fault. It's the couple's rudeness.

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tiredanddangerous · 20/06/2020 17:33

Yes I would report this to the police. They may well have had reports from other people too.

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