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Scared by someone entering our house today - big argument with DP

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Lickmylegs0 Sat 20-Jun-20 17:14:15

I need to know I’m not going crazy. I was in garden, and came in to see a strange lady using our toilet. Baby was asleep in room next to door, and my DD was there too. DP had opened door and let lady in to use the toilet, he claims she pushed past him - but I think he should have said ‘no’ firmly.
Man on doorstep wanted to contact previous owners of our bungalow - DP was about to get all our paperwork out. I stopped him and told them to contact estate agent.
Strange lady came back later. I spoke to her through window - she wanted to know if the previous owner had died - and then said the bungalow should belong to them.
I feel very shaken up and DP has been having a go at me saying I overreacted.

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CodenameVillanelle Sat 20-Jun-20 17:15:09

Yeah he WBU - what a silly thing to do!

NotaCoolMum Sat 20-Jun-20 17:17:16

What the hell?! I’d have gone mental at them!! DH surely shouldn’t be letting strangers into your home for many reasons (one of which includes LOCKDOWN!) YANBU X

EmperorCovidula Sat 20-Jun-20 17:18:06

They sound unhinged. I would check that nothing is missing.

Nickname21 Sat 20-Jun-20 17:19:37

All sounds a bit weird. Why would they think the bungalow belonged to them?

Brumcherub Sat 20-Jun-20 17:20:22

Yes you are right to be angry/upset by this behaviour.

KitchenConfidential Sat 20-Jun-20 17:20:23

What the actual fuck?!

WaitingForTheTurn79 Sat 20-Jun-20 17:21:13

If the incident had happened the way your husband said it did , then he may have had to physically stop the woman from entering the property and this is something that a lot of men are taught to avoid. I would give your husband a break . This woman who entered the property without permission and then told you it should belong to her(?) Is the real problem.

PegasusReturns Sat 20-Jun-20 17:22:33

Yes I’d be really cross and much more so that he’d failed to stop someone pushing past rather than he’d invited someone in shock

safariboot Sat 20-Jun-20 17:22:43

All sounds very weird. I'd consider police, and increasing your security. Someone who believes they should own your house probably also believes they can take whatever's in it. Alternatively, a woman asking to use the toilet and someone else asking your husband for stuff, that reeks of distraction burglary.

needhandhold Sat 20-Jun-20 17:23:32

How very weird!

Lickmylegs0 Sat 20-Jun-20 17:23:34

They looked unhinged. She was putting hand sanitiser on when I saw her - but I made DP bleach the toilet. She said the bungalow shouldn’t have been sold - something about the nephew sold it and her partner should have it. She wanted to know if previous owner had died and how much the bungalow sold for.

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DandyMandy Sat 20-Jun-20 17:23:35

That sounds really creepy and scary. I hope you're going to be okay. How the hell could your house belong to them? Very weird.

WaitingForTheTurn79 Sat 20-Jun-20 17:23:46

Sounds like she is related (daughter?) To the previous owner. She came to visit her relatives(parents?) And on finding that they don't live there any longer immediately assumed that they had died and therefore she should have inherited the property . Obviously , a lot going on there .

Lickmylegs0 Sat 20-Jun-20 17:24:16

Distraction burglary was what I thought. Nothing missing.

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EKGEMS Sat 20-Jun-20 17:24:50

If she's pushing past him into the house then the husband has a legal right to defend himself and his children and wife,correct? Idk British law but here in the states you can.You have no idea what her intentions were. I'd have lost my shit with your spineless husband and both of the strangers

needhandhold Sat 20-Jun-20 17:24:59

Tell her to piss off. It’s nothing to do with you. If she’s that concerned then she should contact a solicitor. Tell her if she ever tries to get into your house again that you’ll call the police. I suggest you set up a security camera on your front door

WaitingForTheTurn79 Sat 20-Jun-20 17:26:03

It sounds scary and I'm not surprised you are shaken up , sorry I missed that it your OP xx

Lickmylegs0 Sat 20-Jun-20 17:26:46

It was how quickly it all happened - and the safety of my children which disturbs me. And DP can’t see why I’m upset. I’ve just had a massive go at him - over this and something else he did this afternoon.

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MrsTerryPratchett Sat 20-Jun-20 17:28:16

If someone does that, call the police! Don't start showing them paperwork. Your DH is weird.

Lickmylegs0 Sat 20-Jun-20 17:28:50

Do you think I should report to police?

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Spudlet Sat 20-Jun-20 17:29:09

I’m not normally one for calling 101 but in this case I would - just in case they are distraction burglars doing the rounds. Although that’s a very random distraction technique!

I would also consider putting a warning on the local Facebook page if you have one.

Definitely tell your DH not to let them in again and if they come back and get pushy again, tell them to leave or you’ll call the police. And do it if they don’t go.

NotaCoolMum Sat 20-Jun-20 17:30:51

Definitely report to the police! flowers

Ellmau Sat 20-Jun-20 17:31:43

Your solicitor will have checked the title to ensure the vendor genuinely owned the property.

If they turn up again, call the police.

Boredbumhead Sat 20-Jun-20 17:32:06

It's not your husband's fault. It's the couple's rudeness.

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