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Online dating. Help!

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namechangecareerchange · 18/06/2020 19:25

Ok, so for the very first time I've joined online dating. I've never really been on a date before! Always ended up being friends and then being together.

So what do I expect? What's the etiquette? It's a socially distanced picnic on Sunday lunchtime. What's the deal? Chat? Do I expect a hug/ snog if it goes well? But what under covid? That doesn't feel right so do I have to say I don't want to break the rules, or am I expecting too much on a first date anyway?!?

Also. And of course. I've got a cold sore. I can prob hide it but obvs don't want to snog with it, so do I cancel?!? Argh!! Help!!

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funnylittlefloozie · 18/06/2020 19:29

A picnic for a first date sounds nice, actually. I personally wouldn't snog on the first date, and doubly so with COVID.

Have you got a wet-weather back up plan?

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Bunnymumy · 18/06/2020 19:56

I usually try meet as soon as possible so that you can be sure that they arent just timewasters online for the ego boost.

Easier said than done right now.

I'm avoiding it till lockdown is up because it'll be swarming with narcissists right now. Due to them having no way to meet new supply.

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namechangecareerchange · 18/06/2020 21:54

Ok, so no physical contact on the first date?
I can handle that! No bad weather back up plans - hopefully will be ok, plus there aren't many other options at the moment!
So just meet someone, chat. Leave?
Need to go heavy on the cold sore make up. 😂
So tempted to cancel 🙄

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IveGotFrills · 19/06/2020 06:39

How old is he op? I think that will determine what he expects.

Apply cold sore cream from today & it'll clear it by Sunday.

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Janerains · 19/06/2020 06:44

I think you are massively missing the point of social distancing! Why call it a socially distanced date if you are willing to hug/snog?

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DianaT1969 · 19/06/2020 06:47

You could warn him about the cold sore. There was a strange news story about a man suing a woman who covered it with makeup and transferred the virus to him.

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Glitterb · 19/06/2020 06:51

Just go and have a good time!

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Frownette · 19/06/2020 06:52

I don't think she needs to mention the cold sore, just not kiss him. And yes, covid!

Are you both bringing along food and have planned what each is taking?

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namechangecareerchange · 19/06/2020 07:47

@Janerains yes sorry. I was also asking in general!
Yes no physical contact this time, no mention the cold sore, taking our own stuff/ picnic blankets. Which seems odd so just asking what's generally acceptable.
Never done this ever, so I'm kind of glad to do it under covid cos there's defo no pressure 😆

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Nobodysdiary · 19/06/2020 07:50

I wouldn’t risk a hug or snog with a random Internet stranger that you might not even like.

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Nobodysdiary · 19/06/2020 07:51

There is a story in the news at the moment about a man suing a woman who snogged him on a date and he caught a cold sore.

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maybemu · 19/06/2020 08:06

Don't kiss him, a woman is currently being sued for kissing a man while she had a cold sore. Could be an expensive date.

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cravingthelook · 19/06/2020 08:33

Join us on the OLD thread if you like, lots of us to chat the dates through with.


Dating Thread 190 - Living La Vida Lockdown but not out... www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3931002-Dating-Thread-190-Living-La-Vida-Lockdown-but-not-out

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namechangecareerchange · 19/06/2020 09:22

@cravingthelook thank you! Will do!!

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