Hi
I been with this man for 4 year, lived together for 2. Last 2 years been hell since we moved in together.He didnt treat me and my youngest ( girl 11. Boy 18) very well. He liked my boy...problerly cos of his age and didnt need me that much if that makes sense...friends family have called it emotional abuse..I didnt know at the time...moods swings. Yelling. Accusing me of stuff . Making me sleep on sofa or spare room if I upset him..telling me off for not puffing the cushions or washing up or cleaning his cooker! Telling me I not disciplining me children correctly . Comparing my parenting to his sisters . Comparing my kids to his niece and nephew...my kids dont live up to there standards or to the family way...he started disciplining my youngest about a year ago...didnt like the way she ate her dinner . Sat and ate her dinner. Way she washed up. Wasnt allowed to.play in the garden out front only. No snacks . Wasnt allowed to spend long in her bedroom. Wasnt allowed to watch what she wanted on main TV.. had to walk down the stairs slowly...etc etc etc
He has trashed the property twice in space of 3 months..becouse he wasnt being listened too.or he didnt like my attitude..it was my attitude that made him do it..pulling food out of fridge throwing it across the room. Emptying cupboards well you can imagine the rest..alot went on. Then may this year he had a melt down over something or other not sure what but he was having a bad day...took it out on us...started same pattern shouting . Calling us names...making point it was his house . Threw food everywhere use your imagination anyway he threw us out literally..middle of lockdown.
Since then he had contacted us saying he was sorry couldnt cope with my daughter...she can be hard work as on spectrum for adhd. But he try better..he wants to move house to another council place so we can start again. He loves me. Misses me. I am his best friend etc etc he said he started counselling...then other day he sent me horrible texts saying I got new bloke I was sleeping about..then calling me names left me in tears..then later in the night text me saying sorry he was having a bad day cos of counselling.. he wants me home. Kept giving me time to be home by ie; 5pm..if not then dont bother..next text saying sorry he is stressed as misses me..
Yeserday had voice mail saying can I meet him today at the house. He wants to give us another go. He is sorry loves me. I am his soul mate best friend...he realises how much he had hurt me and wont do it again. He try harder with my daughter. Then he started crying how sorry he was...
Why do I feel guilty! My head is spinning
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Casper22 · 18/06/2020 12:32
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