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A moan about sis in law

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Sarapq2 · 17/06/2020 22:25

Me and my sister in law have a rocky relationship to say the least. I tried my best to be friends at first but 7 years on I can't win with her , she has lied about me and her former actions caused me to attempt suicide during my husband and I brief split
I feel so insecure about everything she does , I keep second guessing her actions and find even her recent apology false , she is a lying , cheating manipulate drunk , luckily with lockdown I don't have to see her but eventually I will and I fear my bitterness will overflow and I'll end up letting the information I know about her out !

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category12 · 17/06/2020 23:17

Why don't you just continue no contact/low contact after lockdown?

If there are family events you'll both have to attend, avoid engaging and be distant but civil.

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justilou1 · 17/06/2020 23:35

I was going to suggest the same... continue as though still on lockdown if life has improved for you.

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Sarapq2 · 18/06/2020 09:04

She thinks everything is ok now , shell comment can't wait to come round for tea.
Even Christmas day she had to talk about this other woman ( we broke up and he slept with an ex )
She is constantly asking him to borrow money which I assume Iis for drink .

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category12 · 18/06/2020 09:14

So really you need your dh to support you in no contact/low contact. I guess he doesn't. You can say you won't have her round, you know. What did you say when she said she can't wait to come round for tea? What sort of contact are you having currently?

It sounds like you're in a very toxic situation. Why did you split up with your dh, and why did you get back together?

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Sarapq2 · 18/06/2020 09:47

He does support me he contacted her in Jan and said he knew what she'd done to me and then didn't talk to her for 3 weeks.
We laugh it off when she says things like that
Luckily she doesn't know the address , I refuse to let her have it.
We broke up after a fight and I thru him out we got back together after he found out all the lies had been told to both of us after a mutual friend interviend , we were under a no contact order ( maibly due to lies his sis told saying I hated him and that I said he'd hurt me and her telling me he hates and wants to hurt me so I ended up getting an I junction against him

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Areallthenamestaken · 18/06/2020 09:57

Tell her now that you're not interested in maintaining the relationship. Let her be upset during lockdown. Block and delete her from wherever you can. Make sure your husband is on board. She sounds like a total cow.

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Sarapq2 · 18/06/2020 18:09

Only reason I stay FB friends is so I can keep an eye on her , she has blatantly lied to friends of mine even to point they were told to block contact.
Plus my husband Likes to see his nephew's and it's difficult for him to get there without transport .

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