Over the years I've had many disagreements with my dh. Overall I'd love to leave but I'm very much trapped financially.
Disagreements include him being very controlling with money and general things like him telling me that I am this that and the other.
When I speak to him he's often silent. I ask him to talk back and tbh it's been pretty unbearable during lockdown as we live remotely and it's just me him and our one dc.
I have questioned his silence and he tells me he does speak back. He doesn't.
Yesterday a new neighbour moved in, he introduced himself and my dh just stood there awkwardly. To be fair the silence does extend to other people. I said hello to the neighbour but the meeting was so awkward by now the neighbour had turned to walk off.
I said to my dh how come you didn't say hello my dh said he did say hello. I said it wasn't very social to just stand there and dh said he was sociable he spoke back he said hello. I said he didn't say anything.
He then told me my hearing isn't quite what it used to be and when lockdown ends I should get it checked.
Is that gaslighting? There's nothing wrong with my hearing. He'd now walked off annoyed.
I don't think there's much I can actually change. Just want to know I'm not simply mad I supposed.
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Is this gaslighting?
avacadotoastee · 17/06/2020 13:13
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