Im talking about my DH. I try to sit him down to talk about things and make decisions on us, life, kids etc but he scurries off and i am left having to organise and think things over on my own, plan stuff by myself.
Examples- kids birthdays/christmas. I end up having to think up gift ideas, put money aside (which i make sure he gives me half back for) (we have separate money, thats how weve always done it and works for us). Put up decorations, make the cake organise parties. It comes to the morning of Christmas/Birthday and he is just as surprised as the kids are to what ive bought them!
We would like to move house. This means talking about having a plan to finish off decorating, getting the house ready and of course saving up money to move. No interest. He would like to move dont get me wrong but doesnt want the hassle. I would have to complete all dealing with moving and he would literally do nothing except pack his own bits and bobs. I found out hes been getting bonuses of £2k per year but rather than putting the cash into the house/holidays/or new boiler we desperately need, hes spent it on clothes and bloody iwatch etc. Whereas a couple of years ago, i came into some money and bought new windows for the house.
I just feel frustrated. I feel like im already the parent to a child and hes just another child aged 44 😕 i have all of the mental load and he has nothing 🤯 ive tried to talk to him about it but he just looks for the nearest exit!!!
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CactusWaffle · 16/06/2020 14:38
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