Hi all.
I'm terrified writing this right now. I don't really know what I want to get out of this maybe other than support to do the right thing.
Me and my fiance got together when I was 18 and he was 19. We're both turning 24 this year.
We have a lovely house (we rent) and a georgous little cocker spaniel puppy. We both have our dream jobs and money isn't an issue. Sounds perfect right? Not.
I dont think we're right for each other at all! I love to talk and plan and get excited about travelling and our future. He likes to live a very simple life and just wait for things to happen around him.
We've been on and off for years and our longest break up was 2 months. I had an amazing 2 months but honestly got back together with him because I missed him, I dont even know if it was the right thing to do.
Last year we lost a baby. Before then we would talk a lot about how funny it would be if I got pregnant and we would talk about our future children and life. We were being careful but I still got pregnant and I lost the baby.
Since then he wont talk to me about babys or pregnancy, I'm having a little bit of a scare right now and he said that if I was pregnant he wouldn't want me to tell anyone. He wont talk about our future and honestly I'm so down and sad all day every day.
He also might have an opportunity to move across the country and pursue his career, but I dont want to. I already moved 100 miles from my family to live with him. The long term goal was to move back home to where our families are in about 5 years, and now he doesnt want to because his career is more important (I work remotely so it doesnt matter where I am).
He gets angry at tiny things and then gets mad at me when I try to help. He says that I get him down all the time but he wont talk it out or do anything to try and change or improve us as a couple.
I cant keep living like this - there has to be something more. Hes very caring but that's almost the only good thing I can say about him.
I can move back in with my Mum and just keep paying towards the house until the tenancy us up.
I'm very scared about the future :(
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heythere7 · 15/06/2020 17:25
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