Thanks for the messages.
You may or may not meet 'someone special' but at least you will be spending your time doing something you enjoy rather than endlessly looking on dating websites & sending messages which can seem a bit false.
Yes I agree with this - real life rather than online dating, or if online dating, only in addition to real life and not as a substitute. I did some OLD around December / January and in addition to being messaged by players, did go on 7 platonic dates with someone I really liked and am still in touch with as a friend which is nice... But the experience with the weirdos and players has put me off OLD.
So, to sum up. Love yourself for who you are, don’t worry about your age/appearance as confidence is what is appealing to men. Start when you’re ready. Take one step at a time. Seek out experiences. Put yourself first ALWAYS. And enjoy the freedom!
Thanks @TigerDater your post in inspiring.
plenty of suitable stuff in the morning but not much good stuff left over at end of the day (I apply this to myself as well, there are obviously far more attractive and suitable women in younger age groups than me) isn't this because most men my age will already be attached though?
We are also looking for the ideal person but that ideal of a person might be more aligned with what you expect a man/women should be when you were younger, more active, perhaps more career oriented and... affluent. - am still very active - single parent with three teens and normally working (when not in lockdown), have never been career oriented or affluent so that's okay .
The problem is that there are not many “ideal” people, and what could be the “ideal” for you might have a person much younger than you as an “ideal”
I am not looking for someone who is younger than me, but nor am I looking for someone who is a lot older. My exh is 12 years older than me, and he was completely uninterested in sex for a long time (and withheld affection for years), so I really don't want a repeat of that. He was also becoming really sofa bound - think evening after evening sat in silence with someone buried in their laptop who came to bed after me and left before me and didn't say a word or ever put an arm around me even - and I really want to live still. Not saying that everyone in their 60s will be sofa bound, but there is loads I want to do so I would like to meet someone who is active and interested in life.
Having said that I don't really have an ideal - someone I can talk to and be myself with, who is funny, clever and kind. Someone I can trust. But yeah I also want to fancy them.
I know it might never happen. I guess it's that yearning for intimacy and connection that you can only get from a "romantic" relationship?