I know there are a lot of threads at the moment, but I am 5 1/2 months pregnant so not thinking particulary rationally anyway and I need a lot of support before I lose the plot.
I have been with my dp, for 2 years almost and for the most part we have had a wonderful relationship, I found out I was pregnant in May and initially I didnt want the baby, but he seemed to really want it and promised to support me etc so I went ahead. Worst decision i ever made.. Whilst it took me a while to come to terms with the pregnancy he seemed to be fine, now I think its hit him what is going to happen.
For the last few months he has become withdrawn, doesnt want to do anything with me, doesnt talk to me and sex is totally out of the question and I feel ugly as it is.
Granted he has had probs at work and I have tried to be supportive. But then last week when I used his computer as my internet had broke, I came accross a message between his and this girl who used to work with him and has recently gone back to Poland. ALthough there is no obvious flirting it is plain to see that he likes her alot. He calls her "baby" says she is beautiful and calls her his sexy polish friend. and asks if she had stayed in England would things have happened between them? well that was it, all the memories of past boyfriends doing similar things came flooding back and my depression has returned with a vengence.
he has been spending, sometimes all night on the net when he is off work, doesnt come to bed with me that often and now I know why. It makes me feel sick and now I cant eat or sleep. He doesnt know that I have seen this and although it was completly inncocent how I came accross it he will nevr believe that and he wont trust me again. when I tried last week to say to him that his behaviour is making me concerned he said that he was distant because of his vertigo becoming worse and he cant deal with it. He also never mentioned this girl when he told me what he does on the net all the time i.e making his tunes and speaking to his other friends.
I am in turmoil, I cant carry on like this it is tearing me apart to think he might have feelings for someone else ans then in the same breath he says he wont leave me and loves me vey much but then shouts and gets angry when I get neurotic and begin crying and going off on one when I get paranoid
This isnt the whole story, but its the main bits. Really sorry for the long thread, and thank you for any help that anyone can give me.
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wurlywoo · 24/09/2007 08:26
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