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MummaJ32 Fri 12-Jun-20 16:53:07

I’ve just found out that my boyfriend has been sharing extremely private details about sexual conversations we’ve had with his work colleagues and possibly other people I don’t even know about... am I wrong to be upset about this?
I know people share things but he asked me to pass him his phone so I did and as I did the screen came up with a message from his colleague using what i’d said to him against me as a joke.. and he was laughing about it.

I told him I wasn’t happy but not sure if I’m overreacting now

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Windyatthebeach Fri 12-Jun-20 16:55:47

Tell him you and a friend have been laughing about his penis size..
See how he likes that..

joystir59 Fri 12-Jun-20 16:58:04

He doesn't think he is in a relationship. For him what you share is casual. He wouldn't be so disrespectful otherwise. Ditch him.

Greyblueeyes Fri 12-Jun-20 16:59:17

Dump him. That is completely unacceptable and a betrayal to you.

1235kbm Fri 12-Jun-20 16:59:47

Dump him OP. Just finish the relationship, it's just going to get worse.No one who cares about you, makes you the laughing stock with deeply personal information. He's humiliating you. He's treating you with contempt.

2007Millie Fri 12-Jun-20 17:06:54

Dump him.

sunflowersandtulips50 Fri 12-Jun-20 18:10:07

YANBU to be furious- says a lot about how he views your relationship- agree with everyone else- dump

MummaJ32 Fri 12-Jun-20 18:28:39

What does YANBU mean please?

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Thelnebriati Fri 12-Jun-20 18:34:44

YANBU = you are not being unreasonable.
I'd be upset by what he's doing, I don't expect he;d like it if it was you doing it to him.

MyOwnSummer Fri 12-Jun-20 18:35:33

YANBU is You are not being unreasonable.

I'd be furious in your position, this man has no respect for you at all.

MummaJ32 Fri 12-Jun-20 18:36:36

Thank you all. I am really upset by this x

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DDIJ Fri 12-Jun-20 18:37:53

Please dump him. This is an awful thing to do.

NoMoreDickheads Fri 12-Jun-20 19:00:47

BIN! What an arsehole. You can't put up with this, or you're giving him a license to treat you how he wants. He's shown you what he thinks of you with his disrespect. Act accordingly and block him.

wantmorenow Fri 12-Jun-20 19:04:43

**A healthy marriage is composed of windows and walls.
The windows, which must stay open, are between you and your spouse. This is how you communicate and pass intimacy, trust, secrets, and love. The couple may also have close meaningful relationships outside of their connection. However, the windows between partners and their other relationships should remain much smaller and not as transparent.
The walls are between the two of you (together) and the outside world. The wall gives your marriage privacy. No one should know more about your relationship than your partner, and any private information shared inside the marriage should not be shared with anyone outside it.**

Not my words but ones that firmly believe in. He has disrespected you and your relationship.

Happynow001 Fri 12-Jun-20 19:23:39

He has been utterly disrespectful to you and you deserve someone better than this uncaring and hurtful person in your life. Send him packing OP. 🌷

FizzyGreenWater Fri 12-Jun-20 19:34:04

That's an instant dump.

What a PRICK.

Absolutely appalling and humiliating. No, you are not overreacting.

MsDogLady Fri 12-Jun-20 19:40:12

He is making a mockery of you. Get rid of this loser asap.

BumbleBeee69 Fri 12-Jun-20 19:40:27

End this now... flowers

MummaJ32 Fri 12-Jun-20 19:59:24

Thanks everyone. I’ve ended the relationship and he has blocked me 😬

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purpleboy Fri 12-Jun-20 20:00:37

No loss there then!

MummaJ32 Fri 12-Jun-20 20:10:29

No I guess not @purpleboy
Hearing other people’s views has really put it in perspective for me

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TwentyViginti Fri 12-Jun-20 20:11:45

Just be wary of him unblocking and trying to wheedle round you when he fancies a bit of sex. Best to block him back.

He's far too immature for a relationship, and totally disrespectful.

MummaJ32 Fri 12-Jun-20 20:27:25

@twentyviginti this has made me chuckle because he’s actually just unblocked me? 🙈

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TwentyViginti Fri 12-Jun-20 20:30:59

hmm grin

MummaJ32 Fri 12-Jun-20 20:35:28

@twentyviginti so he’s keeping me dangling basically by waiting for sex one day?

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