I am in a position where I just cannot stay with the father of my 2 children much longer. He's a good dad and a great friend to others, however there is no love between us and I have begun to see our relationship as quite dysfunctional and very transactional. I come from a toxic dysfunctional family myself and although my parents have been married 40 odd years their relationship is very damaging. I did not have a happy childhood despite living in a nice home and not wanting for materialistic things. I had no experience of unconditional love or affection, mutual respect, or emotionally stable parents.
I want better for my children.
I am however very scared of taking this leap, not so much of being a single mum ( that I'm quite looking forward to! ) I am also looking forward to time alone to heal and work on my self esteem and some co dependency issues.
What I am concerned about is the inevitable new partners that will come into my children's lives at some point ( both for me and my current partner ) I'm talking way, way in the future. Please do not assume I am going to jump into a new relationship quickly, I have a lot of work to do on myself first. I can't speak for him but I would presume he will move on quicker than me.
I guess I am just asking for positive stories only from those who grew up with step parents that feel their parents really gave them the best of both worlds even though your biological parents weren't together. If you could give some advice as to what made you feel loved and secure in both households and what not to do?
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luelladeville · 12/06/2020 12:39
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