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what do normal couples talk about?(77 Posts)
what do normal couples have conversations about? ive been with my partner 5 years and i feel like im at a point where i feel we literally have nothing to talk about anymore. we come home from work quick hows ure day gone, tea, shower, usually slap some rubbish on the tv and then off to bed we go. and my partner will say we’ve barely spoken today. cos i feel like i literally have nothing to say, unless something consequential happened in my day im not really one for talking about work, ive been at work all day i dont really want to come home and then spend all evening talking about work!
quick conversations about the weather and the news and have we heard from family and that’s literally all we speak about!
We talk about the kids, stuff we've read or seen on the news, we discuss tv shows as we watch them. We talk about what our next childfree night will be like. We talk about our next holiday or jobs that need doing around the house. We play board games so chat during those about the game. We talk about friends family and colleagues.
We do spend time in silence too each doing our own thing but it's comfortable not awkward.
I don't think that's a good sign tbh op, myself and DH have honestly never run out of things to talk about. Shows we're watching, obviously how our days went, things we have to do that week, the kids etc etc.
Last week we sat and had an hour long conversation about ww1, because I was saying that I actually didn't know much about it and he was telling me what he knows about it. Maybe I'm wrong, but I don't think it should be difficult to converse with your partner, you should enjoy talking to them. Are you happy other than that?
This is not judgemental by the way.
Our days, our work, cooking, politics, economy, films / TV shows, feminism, racism, current affairs, dreams, hopes, aspirations, the house, DIY... anything and everything.
We’ve been together 11 years and still talk about everything, tv shows, music, latest news from our friends and family, current events, rants about work, plans for the future, random things like a 2 hour discussion about the wombles 😂
My husband and I have very little in common he is passionate about history and politics and I am sooo not into those things. He is really clever and I am averagely clever but I am more organised and better at life in general than him. But we can talk all day everyday about rubbish. Our son is an adult so no longer lives at home but we have 2 kittens who make us laugh every day.
Anything and everything. I can’t imagine ever getting to the point where DH and I are stuck for something to say. Even if it is nonsense.
Current affairs and news
Plans both short term and long term
Books, films, art, people, the garden (me), running (him), children, family, food, nice times we’ve had together in the past (reminiscing about holidays a lot at the moment in lieu of being able to go anywhere)
Lots of things. We also have times of silence when we’re thinking, or doing our own thing too.
All sorts. Family,plans,tv shows,politics etc. Just had a twenty minute conversation about what our treat food is going to be later. Sometimes you might have to think of a topic and throw it out there for conversation.
We e been together 5 years.
We mainly talk about :
Food, what to eat, where we’d like to go to eat one day
Garden, what to plant, what things are doing well
Holidays, where we’ve been, where we’d like to go
House, plans for extension or moving
Tv programmes we like
Any current worries
I think it's a great thing in a relationship if you never run out of things to chat about. I've had one or two exes like it and one became my best friend. Of course there are other things to a relationship but being able to natter is a good one to have.
You could try having a shared hobby/game.
Kids, work, funny/interesting twitter threads, what to have for tea, will the schools ever go back, where should we go for a walk, holidays, has xyz bill been paid, task been done. Whatever pops into our heads really.
I don't know if we're normal, but we talk about all sorts - our days, our families, friends, work, things going on in the world, books, films, music, history, art, future plans.
Anything we're interested in really! We sit in happy silence often too.
That's sad, OP.
Me and the OH are big gamers so there's always that to chat about. We chat about our friends, current affairs, our cats, our families. He pointed out that since we first started talking 18 months ago (online,) there hasn't been a single day gone by when we haven't talked for several hours.
And there's a lot of silly, jokey, messing around chat. Probably nauseatingly cringe to others, but I suppose we're still in the honeymoon period!
We've been together 4 years
We talk about what's going on in the world, have a little debate, friends, family gossip stuff, we have lots of in jokes so a conversation can be just saying silly things. We're annoyingly coupley really.
We talk about a lot, anything and everything really! We’ve been together 8 years and haven’t run out of things to chat about. Most of our conversations probably seem silly to others, we are quite silly and talk about absolute shit sometimes We are also equally happy to sit quietly and get on with our own things, but it’s a comfortable silence, not an awkward one at all. I think if you’re at the point where the conversation is awkward at all that’s quite sad OP. I’m not sure how you can address it though.
Mine can talk about himself well enough to fill the hours. In the event that he runs out or I drift off; the usual things, family, work, current affairs, stuff on social media, history and culture. We also have our own interests and shared interests which give us a lot of mutual and individual things to talk about.
Do you mean that there's a household somewhere where nobody says "I was reading on mumsnet that..."?
Our garden plans
Plants for the garden
Other people's gardens
Our home - decorating plans / decluttering
Future plans for our life
Recipes we might try
Films / books / history
New walk routes around our neighbourhood
We've been together for over 40 years
Married 24 years. We talk about family, holidays, books, tv shows, films, politics, current affairs, places we've been, gardening, motor bikes, cars, lockdown .... in fact we rarely shut up. Though as we are both furloughed we do take ourselves off to separate rooms now and again to just have our own space for a while, read, play games or just stare into space.
I have been married for almost 15 years and we still chat all the time.
DH job, how it is going
Foster child's activities, when they will come back
What food we need
How work is going on b2l houses, if we will do any work on them, gas cert etc.
Where we could have s holiday
His parents who are elderly, I'll.
News in general
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