So I have posted about my ex and his relationship with our daughter a few times. Long story short, he is emotionally abusive, manipulative and controlling, and has started to turn his behaviour onto her now that I no longer engage with him. We've been divorced for over 9 years and she is almost 17.
She used to spend 3 nights a week with him and then he moved further away to live with his new partner, plus she got a part time job near my house, so she reduced contact to one night a week (her decision). He has never been happy with this and repeatedly tries to emotionally blackmail her into seeing him more, tells her he's disappointed with her (repeatedly) because she doesn't want to spend more time with him. Basically treats her like she's still 7 years old and the original contact order should still apply forever. She hasn't seen him at all during lockdown (again, her decision) but when she was staying there before he would leave 'her' room in a tip and not change the sheets after he had slept in it (his partner kicked him out of their room due to his snoring).
His partner is also pregnant and the baby is being induced today, so the latest is he messages her (after a huge row the other night which ended up with her upset) to say 'today I'm going to be a dad.' She was like erm hello...you're already a dad?! I think this is just the final straw for her and she's just told me she never wants to see him again (however she does want to see the baby and be part of it's life so it's very difficult).
I don't know what to do - would you leave her to make her own decisions or try to encourage her to maintain her relationship with him for the sake of the new baby if nothing else? I have tried to reason with him but it falls on deaf ears. He is a classic case of never being wrong no matter how much of an arse he is being.
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Daughter says she never wants to see her dad again
chocolatesaltyballs22 · 10/06/2020 12:17
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