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Is this him controlling me?

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heartbroken9 Sun 07-Jun-20 18:15:18

I broke up with my 40 year old boyfriend 3 weeks ago then he ignored me for weeks, deliberately not reading any messages I’d sent, apologising for what I’d said and hoped we could still talk etc.

After 3 weeks of silence from him, I chose to delete him from Facebook as I didn’t see any point if he was never gonna talk to me again.

3 hours after I deleted him from fb, he read all my texts & then blocked me on fb.

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Windyatthebeach Sun 07-Jun-20 18:18:31

You dumped him therefore an ex and can't control you...
You give him too much head space op. Move on.

OnlyJudyCanJudgeMe Sun 07-Jun-20 18:18:33

That’s him being an arse and doing exactly what you did first.

TorkTorkBam Sun 07-Jun-20 18:20:18

1) You are being ridiculous.

2) Don't spam people after you dump them. So rude.

ladymary86 Sun 07-Jun-20 18:20:24

Um... no.

category12 Sun 07-Jun-20 18:20:42

No, it's him blocking you.

Zaphodsotherhead Sun 07-Jun-20 18:21:34

You say he 'deliberately didn't read your messages'. But you have no idea whether it was 'deliberate' evasion or whether he just doesn't care enough to be bothered to read them.

Hint. He doesn't care enough. We've been here before. Give it up, OP.

Prisonbreak Sun 07-Jun-20 18:22:27

I’m assuming your quite young the way you refer to his age.
Move on it’s over

MyOwnSummer Sun 07-Jun-20 18:23:30

Are you the 27yo whose 40yo boyfriend would only talk outside the house because his mother didn't like you, think a letter was sent post breakup?

Apologies if I'm confusing you with another poster.

AliasGrape Sun 07-Jun-20 18:25:48

Is this the 40 year old who lives with his mum, had to hide from his mum to phone you and said he didn’t love you?

I think you might need some professional help if so.

Let it go now.


JustC Sun 07-Jun-20 18:25:58

In answer to your title and without any other details, No. This is you breaking up with him, him accepting that and moving on.

JamieLeeCurtains Sun 07-Jun-20 18:28:32

It's a bit twatty of him, but you're best off out of it, OP.

Divebar Sun 07-Jun-20 18:29:14

If you break up with someone you don’t get to complain that they don’t read your messages. You don’t get to stay friends, you don’t get to talk. You are done.

toobusytothink Sun 07-Jun-20 18:30:38

Erm you dumped him 🤷‍♀️ Hence why he didn’t read or reply to your messages ....

Cloverforever Sun 07-Jun-20 18:31:23

You sound like a drama queen. It’s time to move on.

namesnames Sun 07-Jun-20 18:33:47

No, he has blocked you on social media, that's all.

Northernsoullover Sun 07-Jun-20 18:37:56

If I got dumped I wouldn't be entering into any further conversations. Which is what he's done.

NoMoreDickheads Sun 07-Jun-20 18:41:46

No, you dumped him so he's hardly controlling you now.

You chose to delete him first, so he chose to block you, probably to make himself feel better. Which is fair enough.

SeriouslySoDoneIn Sun 07-Jun-20 18:58:43


Brunomarsbars Sun 07-Jun-20 23:00:31

To be honest, it sounds like you had little respect for his boundaries. You broke up and then messaged him for “weeks”?

You ended it. He accepted it. He doesn’t have to be gracious and respond to your messages if he doesn’t want to. Draw a line and move on.

backseatcookers Sun 07-Jun-20 23:25:40

You dumped him on your terms - totally fine.

The relationship is over on your terms - totally fine.

You messaged him after the break up, on your terms - fine and his prerogative not to reply.

You are annoyed / baffled he hasn't replied - odd and not empathetic of you.

I don't know how you can't see that.

Good on him.

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