Long story short. Ex husband of 22 years found an OW and also said he was a cross dresser. In my attempt to make out marriage work, he said he would have sex with me if he could be dressed as a woman as well as saying "don't worry, I'll leave the OW". I was sickened by the thought as I had no idea he was a X-dresser and had been since his teens apparently . He donned stockings, suspenders and a g-string and insisted that I used a strap-on (we'd never even talked about one during our long marriage) to penetrate him. I have never felt so revolted in my life and even after three years, it still does not leave my mind. As soon as he had "finished off" he leapt of the bed and said "actually, I don't know where I stand as I'm still going back to the OW." You can only imagine how I felt?!!!
Moving on, we have been divorced for three years and have a court order for maintenance. Last year he wanted it reduced and I eventually agreed. 9 months on, he's written again to my lawyers to say that he and the OW and their kids need heaps of money so they are giving me a solitary £500 (it's usually a lot more and agreed by the courts). This would leave me and my special needs son homeless.
What I'm getting at is the endless abuse. Not only sexual but financial. It seems like he just can't let me go and get on with my life. The divorce was his idea and not mine, but the hell he has put myself and "our" children through has been horrific and never ending.
Where do I go from here? Can I inform the police?
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Would this be classed as abuse? I'm desperately low.
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Oliveoil2020 · 05/06/2020 19:19
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