My partner and I are having troubles. I moved into his during lockdown. We spoke about living together many times and that was the plan anyway for later this year in normal circumstances. I still have my own place. His place is bigger and he has some diy work he wants to do before selling the property. So it made sense to move into his. I’ve offered to help and offered to pay for diy work if needed. He has just finished working fir one employer and is about to start work in a few more weeks with another. He is concerned about the amount of diy and the cost with no income coming in. And he is afraid the next employer may pull his job or that they will insist on him working away straight away hence he feels pressured to get the diy done. Sometimes I have been clumsy ( left stuff on the Kitchen worktop, not stacked dishwasher right, spilt something on floor and carpet). He says he thinks I’m not capable of being careful. I asked if it would be helpful for me to move back to mine in the meantime so he can get things done without my being here. I’m working from here at The moment. I also help in the garden and some of the housework and purchase groceries. but I admit he does most of the Cooking but he says he enjoys it. I do try to be careful. But I still manage to trip up over things and upset him. He says he is over reacting. And that he would not be bothered if he wasn’t trying to get the house ready to sell. We all have our own ways in our own houses as to how we like things to be. When I ask how can I help he says I can help by being more careful as he has enough to do but he says he doesn’t think I am capable of that. Bit lost as to what to do as when I try to do something however small for him I seem to do something clumsy again.
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