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sparklestory919 Thu 04-Jun-20 15:48:00

3rd date later today - I am attracted to him and think he is funny/interesting. But a couple of reddish flags (?): he asks questions but is soo chatty (maybe out of nerves?) that he forgets to listen to the answer and starts blabbering. almost seems so focused on "impressing" that he doesn't try and read me.

Our last two dates have only been 90 mins or so each (both ended by him) but he asks to see me again after... So I just don't really feel we have "clicked" yet.

Other thing is that he is quite clumsy verbally e.g. just tells monologues and overshares a bit! I am intrigued and don't not want to see him again but, again, not sure if this just spells disaster? I guess I am wondering how much of this is nerves vs. personality and whether he will calm down eventually. Our chats via text have been quite deep and meaningful, and he asks questions/"listens" on there.

Do I wait and see if this happens? Or just leave it here?

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Eckhart Thu 04-Jun-20 15:49:24

Nobody can see into the future. It could go either way.

Sunflowersok Thu 04-Jun-20 15:50:16

Wow maybe that is nerves?

Other than that do you like the guy? The first time I met my DP he seemed so confident and talking wayyy too much I thought he was on drugs hmm turns out it was nerves after all and he was totally sober!

PumpkinP Thu 04-Jun-20 15:51:26

What you’ve said wouldn’t bother me.

Aerial2020 Thu 04-Jun-20 15:56:31

Maybe he's trying to seem confident by being really chatty.
Too early to tell.
Give it a chance and see how you feel after another date

walkingchuckydoll Thu 04-Jun-20 15:57:13

What are your dates like? Is it dinner or drinks? Because he might relax more if you do something active together. Might help to get to know the real him.

I don't see a problem with oversharing if you're looking for a lifelong partner tbh. Best to know what you're in for.

Eyre40 Thu 04-Jun-20 15:57:59

I think it's nerves and 90 minutes isn't a great length of time for a date. Some people don't like uncomfortable silences so he might just be trying to fill the gaps.
All men try to impress a little if they like you so maybe its a combination of all of these.
Take your time and maybe suggest a longer date so the nerves calm down a bit, that's if you want to.

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