Hello 👋 I need some advice please!
I’ve been with my D.H. for 4 years and married for 1.
Since getting married we’ve only had sex about 7 times in 12 months. When I mention to him that I’d like to have sex more he says that he doesn’t have a big sex Drive and never has. I completely understand that and I’ve accepted that we’re just never going to have a regular active sex life.
We have a loving and intimate relationship in other ways, so I’m not worried about a lack of intimacy as we cuddle, kiss, hold hands, etc all the time.
The thing that bothers me is that when we do have sex it’s usually not very good. Of the 7 times we’ve had sex since we got married I think I’ve enjoyed it 2 or 3 times.
In the past, especially when we had sex more often during the first year or so we were together, I’ve shown him what I like and used sex toys and he’s usually been really receptive.
But now it’s just a wham bam thank you ma’am and I’ve given up telling him what I like because I feel like I’ve already told him a million times.
He knows that it’s bad as well. He’ll apologise afterwards that it wasn’t very good or it didn’t last long, but doesn’t do anything to change that.
It’s really starting to get to me now :(
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Mrsorchid · 04/06/2020 12:13
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