Hello
My first time posting
I have no friends who are parents and would love someone to talk to.
My husband and I both have a pretty good relationship with our daughter, and our relationship through her is fine. We don't argue about much of anything parenting wise, only one recurring spat that will probably never go away and we both know it and that's the age old balancing act of protection vs exploration for our child that we hold so dear.
We both want to protect her and keep her safe of course, and also both want her to learn and discover, but his alarm for protection usually goes off quite a bit more than mine. Also to stop her from damaging things.
He sometimes gets himself so worried about her that it becomes absurd and I go from being frusterated to laughing. For example being in the garden all three of us, and he said "don't" so many times I was going mad!! "Don't walk near that rock "don't walk too far away" "don't touch the mud" "don't go near that millipede it's poisionous" "don't touch the pots" "dont don't etc etc .... eventually while I had left for five or ten minutes, I came back and he had her standing on a flat rock , two feet in diameter , telling her not to move off the rock.....
I have been out there with just us two more lately
Wondering if anyone has any advice on how to try to help your spouse not worry so much, and help your child be able to explore . How to slow the "don't" train down a bit and let him know when he's being overprotective , without causing a fight or stepping on his toes as a father.
Thank you so much for any replies. Sorry for the length of this post...
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beanseedling · 03/06/2020 09:05
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