Hi everyone
I know people explaining their own depression and anxiety is often discussed but I'd like some advice on being with a partner that suffers with depression and anxiety.
My partner is a fun, very loving outgoing man that is also very anxious and struggles to cope with knocks to his self esteem.
My problem is that I am starting to find the breakdowns over the same problems (for 10 years) as self pitying and self indulgent which makes me resent him and withdraw when I should be supportive and understanding.
Does this make me a terrible person?
I feel resentful that all of the emotional space in the relationship is taken up by him and that I am not able to break down or fall apart even when I really want to. It's hard being the strong one all the time and I am worried about the resentment I am starting to feel.
I know I have responsibility in this as I have allowed this to be the dynamic and over time this becomes a rut.
My question is how do I address this in a constructive way to get my feelings heard without blaming him for them? I am sure he would want to listen to my side too but I want to handle is sensitively so it does not end up in a point scoring row.
I feel I don't have any emotional support and that makes me sad and in my darker moments it makes me angry and resentful I'm ashamed to say x
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Living with a partner suffering from depression and anxiety
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keepyourdistance · 30/05/2020 17:39
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