Hello, I am a stay home parent to my gorgeous 2 year old. I am in a very unhappy relationship where he doesn’t even realise how controlling he is/how unhappy he makes me, no matter how many time I tell him! I’ve even blankly asked him to leave, upon which he scooped our child up and ran across the house shouting loudly “you’re not taking him! He’s not leaving me! Please!” Crying so loud the neighbours heard, our child was DISTRAUGHT, I genuinely feel nothing towards him anymore, but I’m afraid to leave in case he spirals and does something stupid to himself. It’s been 7 long, hard years, I’m also unofficially a step parent to an 8 year old and that has never been positive and he’s never been happy on that front either, seeing how bad he coped through all of that is just magnifying my negatives predictions for how he’ll handle me leaving with our child too.
He doesn’t allow me to work, he doesn’t allow me to see family, I’ve been seeing my brother in secret, I have no friends, any work friends fizzled out when I left work and didn’t return on maternity leave almost 3 years ago. I wish to leave, I am not named on our house so I cannot stay here and he refuses to leave anyway, what can I do? Please.
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ElizaJane231208 · 28/05/2020 20:05
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