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What is this not wanting confrontation(3 Posts)
So not discussing issues within a relationship? Not calling out men who treat you like an asshole because you don't want to cause an argument or upset?
Are we really so afraid of being alone that we will tolerate any old shit?
No, I don't think it's that simple. Many people (not just women) have been seriously damaged by being bought up in a household where they were told from a young age 'keep quiet and don't rock the boat' this is usually where one parent has anger issues or worse. It is not always an issue with being afraid to be alone but more to do with conditioning and we need to be advising people to be looking into their backgrounds and where possible seeking counselling (however for many this is too expensive). So, like many issues it is not a black and white issue and we should be tolerant of people in this situation and give rounded advice, not a knee jerk reaction based on our own background.
Women have been told for a long time that their place in society is underneath men, to be submissive and any expressing or needs or expectations is labelled a bitch, high maintenance, needy, clingy, crazy, hormonal etc
It’s not afraid of being alone, it’s often accepting the relationship you have as familiar and not wanting to lose the stability it may offer. Starting again alone is much harder than it sounds for a lot of people in the short term
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