Had what I would call a rebound relationship after my divorce (20 year marriage) with ex DP. I decided to end the relationship at the beginning of the year. He was getting too needy and I couldn't cope with it. We have been friends a very long time (more than 30 years) and we ended up in a relationship after he was divorced a year and I was separated 3 years and divorced only a few months.
I was pretty devastated when I ended it but it just wasn't good for me mentally but I don't now regret ending it.
As much as it might not be ideal, we have kept in touch. But it is just like it was before we got together now, as in a friendship and it is much better this way.
It was a long distance relationship, he lives quite far away from me and we would only ever see each some weekends, so when we spent the Christmas holidays together (3 weeks) I knew it wasn't going to work out.
We had a discussion last night (we only ever talk over whatsapp and did in the relationship too, which I know, is very odd) and he put forward the idea of once lockdown is over, that we consider going away for a weekend, on a fwb basis.
The thing is, that on the face of it, it doesn't sound too bad an idea. The sex was good and I do miss it. And i like his company, just not in a relationship.
Although I was pretty down about the breakup (its been 4 months now) I can see it was never going to work and i don't feel the same way towards him anymore, as in romantically. We were together for 18 months. But there is most definitely a connection there and I think always will be.
I think I will be okay with keeping the boundaries if we do go ahead with a it, I am not sure if he will though, and I am wondering if this offer is to try to open the door to try the relationship out again.
I have no interest in going into another relationship at all, with him or anyone, I can see that it was a rebound very clearly now.
I don't know if lockdown is skewing my thoughts, if this is a terrible idea, but a weekend away with some decent sex and with someone I do trust, doesn't sound too bad right now.
(He was a love bomber, it will be a very fancy swanky weekend away i am pretty sure)
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Would you go into a fwb situation with an ex?
highlighta · 26/05/2020 08:50
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